Did you know there is a difference between regular listening and active listening? Active listening differs from passive listening in the fact that you are intentionally going out of your way to show the speaker that they are being heard. Mastering the art of active listening can greatly improve all of your relationships, especially your relationship with your student. Instead of listening to your child intending to respond, try to listen to your child intending to understand what, exactly, they are trying to convey. Here are a few tips that might help you improve your active listening skills:
- Face the speaker and make eye contact while they are speaking.
- Pay attention to body language as well as verbal language.
- Listen without interrupting, judging or jumping to conclusions.
- Ask questions if you need clarification.
- Reflect back what is being said so the speaker knows you are understanding.
- Stay focused and don’t multitask.
- Don’t insert your opinions or solutions unless asked.
Most people, including your child, just want to be heard and supported. Taking the time to practice active listening and employ your skills with your student not only models good listening behaviors but supports the idea that you are a safe and trustworthy person for them to confide in.
